What do you have to do to feel beautiful?
I didn’t think I was beautiful enough as a child, and that got worse as a teen.
And so I did everything I could to show up as if I was.
“Fake it till you made it” right?!
So I learned how to better my makeup skills, learned the fashion dos & don’ts, learned what clothes flatter my body shape & facial structure, etc.
But... there is always another pound to lose,
There is always an outfit missing in the closet...
It’s never easy being a woman, right? 🤪
Because, deep down, we all secretly want to look effortlessly beautiful, preferably not having to invest hours of behind-the-scenes work just to look fabulous to go out 😆
Interestingly, when I became a photographer, I found out those insecurities aren’t just my struggles alone.
I noticed how many of my beautiful clients not seeing their true radiance.
Like they do, but they don’t. 🙅🏻♀️
(Seriously, we are so harsh on ourselves)
It devastated me so much back then why I couldn’t make them truly feel how beautiful they are, even though the portraits of them are stunning 🤷🏻♀️
Later on, in my personal development & healing journey, I went deep into understanding why people do what they do, and then I understood why.
That’s also my problem with the toxic common belief of “faking it until you make it”, because if your brain associates that what you are doing is faking it; so unless you constantly & consciously do the work to update that belief after you have “made it”...
you’d always THINK you aren’t “pretty enough “ yet, and hence, you wouldn’t feel beautiful.
These photographs were taken on a spontaneous day trip to the wisteria garden with my amazing friend, on a weekday, after we drop off the kids at school; we had absolutely no idea that I’d ask her to step in as a model so I could test out a new lens 😁
But won’t you agree she’s magnificent just as herself?
She didn't need to glam herself up, nor did she need another pound off for us to see her true beauty.
So WHY can't we see ourselves this way??
We all had bought into the beliefs that we need to abide by those fashion rules & beauty standards to be able to dare think of ourselves as sexy, attractive, or beautiful.
When in truth, we naturally are elegant, gorgeous, lovely, stunning, radiant, exquisite, fetching, divine, dazzling, enticing, magnificent, mesmerizing, charming, captivating, adorable, alluring......
IF ONLY we CLEAR OUT the limiting beliefs of what we believe makes us beautiful and UPDATE to what actually serve us.
For my stubborn self, affirmation means nothing until I cleared a lot of the negative thinkings in my head!!
I am planning on a new exciting course for this!!
It's called Selfie Love: Learn to love yourself without filters.
What do you think??
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